Often the extent of the abuse people encounter is hidden behind closed doors. One thing that Hollywood has been able to do very well is bring these awful situations into the limelight and make us aware that these sorts of things are real and happen every day. Many of us who have grown up in less than ideal circumstances have felt extremely alone as we find that we often have to stay quiet and suffer in silence. Peers do not quite understand why we can be so somber and serious sometimes, or even where our dark humor comes from. We feel alone. We cope alone. Being able to see these and similar situations and their characters brought to life on screen, while painful, can also be comforting in a deep way. Whether you are going through an abusive situation personally, know someone who is, or are just doing some research on abusive behavior and its effects, perhaps have a look at the films below. Keep in mind that these films are often gruesome and gory, and not always for the faint of heart.
Fear (1996): This film is a prime example of a controlling partner, starting off as what seems like the perfect partner… until.
What’s Love Got to Do with It (1993): A great example of how easily someone can become sucked into a life of domestic violence and abuse that does not even resemble what they envisioned when they started with their partner.
Sleeping with the Enemy (1991): Feeling trapped by a controlling abuser can make us want to do a great many things out of desperation.
Sybil (1976): A horrible case of child abuse that leads the victim to a personality disorder in order to cope with past trauma.
Requiem for a Dream (2000): Intense, dizzying drama about substance abuse, how it can change a person, and the lengths someone would go through to stay on their drug of choice—not for the faint of heart.
Basketball Diaries (1995): A young boy stumbles into substance abuse and we journey with him while he struggles to get clean once again.
Boys Don’t Cry (1999): The abuse that a teenage transgender person endures from peers and society, shown in its most brutal forms.
The Joy Luck Club (1993): Telling several tales at once about a group of Chinese immigrants and their families, many of which show the effects that even subtle emotional abuse can have on a person.
The Cell (2000): How twisted the mind can become when a person is given nothing but abuse throughout their lives—again, not for the faint of heart.
Love the Hard Way (2001): Falling in love with someone unhealthy can alter a healthy person’s state of being to the point of extreme self-harm.
Abusive situations and relationships can happen in any circumstance for a number of different reasons. We cannot always predict why or when they will occur, and suffering through them can alter us in ways that we cannot even imagine. Stay strong and know that you are not alone in what you are going through.
When in the midst of an abusive situation, it may be difficult to think clearly and come up with a solution to remedy the abuse, while trying to implement it may feel almost impossible. However, given the right tools and the will power to create change, it most certainly is possible, even more so– it is probable. Many may feel overwhelmed and may not know where to start, but it is important to start somewhere.
Please continue to check in with us each week for a new post about abusive behavior and how it can affect your life and the lives of those around you. There is always that first action to helping someone you care about. Let this be it!
Author Bio - Anna Czarska is a writer and actor who has 15+ years of experience dealing with various situations of abuse. She has pursued business ventures and creative pursuits as well as spending time to study psychology in both formal and personal education. For more information, you may find her Linkedin profile here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kasiakraut/