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Each chapter of this E-Book explains an Abusive Type and their motivations, their outlooks, their traits, the traits of their victims, strategies to avoid and separate from them, and more.
We believe every abusive person and relationship includes one or more of these 13 Abusive Types. That is why we've spent a lot of effort to put together these 114 pages for the 13 Types.
Below are short descriptions for each of the 13 Abusive Types.
- The Drama King/Queen: They need to feel. They would rather be dead than feel nothing, or not feel enough. Their partners help them feel. They can love their partners so much, that they hate them for it.
- The Player: For them, it's all about sex and conquest. They are only interested in how they feel, and are preoccupied with feeling good. Once they have conquered someone to their sexual standard, that person is history. Their focus then turns to their next target.
- The Cuddler: They want to have a baby. They hope this will cure their feelings of loneliness. They expect their lives to suddenly and permanently be changed for the better by having a child of their own.
- The Jailer: They want a victim that will belong to them. Even if resisted at first, they will wear their victim down until their will to fight is diminished or completely gone. They will not accept 'no' for an answer and will persevere until the answer changes to a 'yes'.
- The Tough One: They want to feel independent and tough. They do what they want and don't want to belong to any groups.
- The Gardener: They are looking for innocent and naive youth who will blindly fall for them, and who will be the product of the Gardener's influence. They want to mold and form, to feel like they have created something that belongs to them.
- The Gatekeeper: They want to be relied on and want to be seen as wise and capable. They believe they are what their victim needs in order to help them gain their full potential. Like the Gardener, the Gatekeeper wants to cultivate young minds, though in this case, it is usually in a professional capacity.
- The Enabler: Above all else, they are loyal and patient. Regardless of the type or severity of abuse they will stay by the side of the one they are enabling, supporting and enabling their unhealthy decisions and actions.
- The Rescuer: They want to receive adoration from their partner by being the capable one who fixes the constant slew of emergencies. They fear abandonment and are typically the one who creates the emergencies.
- La Machita: They are typically older than their partner. If not older, they act older and wiser anyway, and are always in charge; treating their partner like an obedient puppet.
- The Obsessor: They move fast and with great intent and focus. They place reliance for how they feel on their target, and do everything in their power to quickly charm and overwhelm them.
- The Brat: Constantly looking for attention, they want to fuel the emotions of everyone around; whether good or bad. They shun the responsibility and cruelty of an adult world.
- The Addict: Defined by their addictions, these abusive types believe only other addicts can understand them deeply and emotionally. They have large mood swings to release inner tension and are attracted to the Enabler abusive types.
Getting out of abusive relationships, abusive relationship cycles, or helping someone else to do those things takes work. This E-Book will not cure domestic violence or abuse alone, there must be a larger strategy and support system in place. These are meant to supplement a bigger picture approach to ridding society of domestic abuse, or if you are curious to learn more about each of the types.
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